. . . let’s practice real love . . . It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism . . . For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves (1 John 3:18-20, MSG).
Do you ever listen to yourself? And the way you talk about yourself?
Let’s say a co-worker compliments you on a project. Do you say, “Thank you very much”?
Or, do you say something like, “Well, it took me forever. You wouldn’t believe how many times I had to redo it”?
Or, what about when your leader tells you how much she appreciates your long hours to complete a big job. Do you say, “Thank you for trusting me with it”?
Or, do you say something to yourself like, “You’re just saying that to sucker me in on the next one. I really didn’t do that good a job”?
Yes, you meet the enemy staring back at you in the mirror each morning.
Your Inner Critic is a persistent, odd-fellow who is never satisfied with anything and chronically speaks ill of you to you, keeping you from glorifying God with your work. Your Inner Critic comes from wounds of past work experiences that have yet to heal and lack love for God, others, and you.
How do you shut up your Inner Critic so you can work Faith Positive?
John says first, place your trust in God. For God is greater than our worried hearts.
Your Inner Critic trusts no one, not even you. It’s a black hole of betrayal, lies, and every other miserable work experience you’ve had (which all of us have had).
Shut up your Inner Critic by saying to yourself, God is greater than my worried heart. God can be trusted to work with you for your benefit and to His glory. God’s universal, unlimited resources are available to you every time you ask. Wisdom, spiritual intuition, physical strength, and whatever else you need in the moment are with you.
Next, John says, put your identity in God. God knows more about us than we do ourselves.
That’s because God created you, knew you from the moment you were just tiny cells multiplying in your mother’s womb; has plans for your future and a hope.
Your Inner Critic is your own creation, an amalgam of negative work experiences and emotional mail delivered to the wrong address by dysfunctional Eeyore Vampires. Your Inner Critic only knows what you tell it.
Tell it to shut up. You belong to God. Your identity is in God. You are a child of the Creator of everything.
Once you place your trust in God and put your identity in God, John says to then practice real love in God.
See yourself as God sees you, the way a proud Daddy looks on his child—with eyes of love.
See others as God sees them—imperfect and yet with eyes of love.
Practicing real love—loving God, others and yourself—silences your Inner Critic. For love is God’s antidote to fear.
Shut up your Inner Critic as you place your trust, put your identity, and practice real love in God and increase your faith with greater joy at work so you love God and others more.
Dr. Joey Faucette
Which of these ways will you practice first? Why that one?
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